OMG. I posted a rather stern comment on a relatively benign blog that I really had no intention of posting but hit publish instead of the edit button. Feel like a b word. The blogger probably didn't mean to strike a nerve, but she did. In the mommy world, there are all sorts of mommy wars or perceived mommy wars and it drives me crazy. Anytime I see a perceived mommy war threat, I pounce, and give them a piece of my mind... in my head or in a comment which i usually then delete. But not this time. Oh the mortification! I do feel strongly about what I said, but at the same time, don't; because what i feel strongly about is not feeling strongly about certain things. Does that make sense? Probably not, i am using generalities. Basically, there is sometimes unsaid pressure to do certain things or follow certain methods or take certain stances in order to be a "good mom" and I think that pressure is baloney and that women should educate and empower themselves, but never ever succumb to pressure that elevates one way over the other. Both ways are valid, choose which one works best for you. And don't preach your way is better than any other. That's my beef with the mommy world: some moms think their way is the only way and tread on other moms in their quest to be whatever it is they are trying to be, supermom, the best mom, better than the average mom?
Usually, I keep my inner b-ness to myself and sometimes to my husband and so am stressed that I let it out into the blogosphere. I have opinions, usually strong opinions, that change with the context. Prefer moderation, except when I don't. I like to think of myself as a ocean, instead of a rock in regards to my beliefs. Depending on the weather, certain ones will be more pronounced, calm, rough, high, low, serene, or choppy. Or something like that.
Oh gosh. what have i done???
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